I’m the guy that the ladies want. I’m young, successful, outwardly confident. Slowly deliberate, yet I’ll surprise you with my attention to the finer details in hidden between the casual. I suppose the nice car might help as well. But really, what is there in the world? I want what most any other person would want. Love, simplicity, a sense of content. Yet the fear of the unknown terrifies me, so I reluctantly always drop back to what I’ve always known.
This is my story.
~ J.
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[Note:] Often I’m asked why I choose to write down my life story here. A few reasons are pertinent here. I use this blog to write anonymously. Being anonymous sort of helps out with coming across with the full meaning. Men are also expected to be macho, a rebel, emotionless, James Dean-ish. This is particularly so in American/Western culture where the genders are forced to operate along very narrow confines. So all my emotions, feelings, and all that “un-manly” stuff? It goes here. These are stories of my experiences that hopefully help you, the reader, illustrate my life to what amounts to a blank slate for your pleasure.
you, are an amazing writer.
Thank you, thank you. I’m surprised people even read this silly thing. It’s just a jumbled collection of my thoughts, that’s all
I second that, you really are a great writer. Jumbled it may be, but it’s written with a good perpective, and comes off as honest without being snobbish, which is what makes it a great read. Please don’t stop.
Thanks Daniel! I’m glad you found my thoughts informative. I try, my friend. Hopefully my ramblings come off as fair and un-biased when it comes to relationships.. I’m just hoping that others can learn from it, to understand what kind of man I am.
You’re a really great writer. I picked at your thoughts a little tonight. I can say I’m able to relate. Thanks for the comment on the video btw.
Ah.. thanks for the compliment. How so do you think you relate though? Just curious on that.
Well what I liked most was “Lesson #2″. Really liking someone and being that “intimate” for the first time, we’ve all had experiences that shape us but I knew exactly what you meant when you said they shape, or could shape, our perspective on love and what intimacy really is. I liked it.
Nice brief description of yourself. ;]
I liked yours as well. Shame I couldn’t squeeze out more about me in mine =X
Lesson one
Money, Looks, Status
Have all three and you’ll have any women in the world.
Nothing poetic or spiritual about it, its just that simple
plus i can tell your nars scored is a bit off the scale
I’m pretty comfortably high on the first and third. I do decent on the 2nd.
And it’s true that some women are interested in all these three. But the point is, I’ve had that in women before and it doesn’t make me happy. Why would I be interested in women who chase a man who has made something of himself? Would she be just interested if he had nothing except a good heart and a strong work ethic? Those women wasted my time, and I wasted my time on them in the past. I’d like to think that I wouldn’t prefer to go there again.
haha well said =)
but reality is, you can have a heart of gold
but without those 3 things, no women would do so much as glance at you
i mean think of it the other way around … and you’ll understand
we all hope for something pure and deep in love don’t we …
but i think its all just delusion
doesn’t keep us from hoping though
The type of woman you describe reminds me of my travels to Kowloon, Hong Kong, and across Eastern Europe!
But see, this is the thing. I spent most of my early life chasing these kind of women. There’s a reason why I don’t anymore, or well, try not to anymore
They are:
1. Gold diggers
2. Lazy
3. Aren’t willing to put input into the relationship
4. Are takers and not givers
5. If you ever falter in your status or “shine,” they will leave and find some other schmoe who is rising
Maybe it’s just me growing up around very strong women, but I have a high respect for women who are willing to go out and build things for themselves. I have a pretty high level of disdain for those who try to take what others built. They’re leeches.
I’ve yet to meet a woman my age or slightly younger who is more successful at career than myself, and that’s okay. Hell, I’ve yet to meet many 40 year olds that are even close to my career level. I’m just looking towards the possibility that she wants something great, and is willing to work for it. In this I realized I would have to drop my previous requirements that she be extremely beautiful, or even super witty and smart. Just someone who tries is fine.
How I see a person in life now is a triangle of physical, success, and personality. We want it all, but we can’t have it all. At most we can have a partner that exemplifies two of these. I think I’d rather have the latter two now.
Sometimes reading your blog, I wonder if you are actually a WOMAN and this is a social experiment….?
Maybe not. Just a thought.
Very much a live and breathing man, trying to break free of the social confines that often define us as people. It’s a tough one, because at times, men in the Western World feel that they can’t express themselves without being characterized as weak. So I guess we have to find alternatives.
Hmm that’s very interesting that you should say that because synchronistically I am learning that men are human and vulnerable and sensitive at the moment and am incorporating that into my novel/s. A friend of mine, synchronistically, is doing the same.
Thanks for helping pave the way for other men (and women!) to be so.
COME ON! It’s been three weeks since your last post… get crackin!